What do all these counterparts have in common? Very deep lineages of historical beliefs that travel through time capturing those swimming along a tide by taking them from one wave of societal changes to the next. Foremost cultural and religious changes run rampant that either one is quick to jump onto the band wagon or one is struggling to break free from tradition. Tradition welcomes people into the world of social norms and beliefs that are marketed to benefit communities as a whole while extracting sacrifices from the common man to bring honor to his family. Masses of people perceive the world to be part of either two worlds –‘East meets West’ or ‘West meets East’. Both worlds believe that their means of living supersedes the other; ironically both hemispheres are codependent upon one another due to the advent of migration and globalization which holds them hostage from abandoning their identities forever. The fabric of life with its loose threads cannot be cut off in a blink of an eye; it requires some degree of resistance to not embrace what is passed on forward from our ancestors.
When one enters the realm of marriage, it is clear that some cultures hold on to past traditions more strongly since their ideologies are profusely advocated through cultural circles, religious houses of worship, social media, propaganda, one’s domestic life, self pronounced scholars; etc.
Are arranged marriages outdated? Not necessarily.
Do not be fooled, divorces are common among the Eastern cultures as well yet it is not a treated as a topic for teatime, or one to be adorned because divorce is treated as a liability versus marriage that equates to emotional & financial security. The reasons for such divorces are not directly correlated to unions dissolving due to arranged marriages, in fact a significant number of those marriages were unsuccessful due to both partners not being knowledgeable enough on how to balance the demands of marriage. Even in modern society marrying a person of one's choice cannot predict the longevity of the union. The rules of finding a mate are basic: to have a genuine intent in seeking a relationship that will benefit both partners with the aid of the universe. Truth be told, some marry for looks, wealth, and status where as those who cast away the latter elements take a leap of faith --all in the name of-- love. Arrange marriages occur among families who are not blood related; some unions originate through blind dates & meeting through friends. Whether we like to acknowledge it or not, those meetings qualify as an ‘arrangement’ of some sorts too. Initially when one hears of arranged marriage, the mind naturally conjures up the demographics of these couples along with reasons why such a union would suffice.
Proponents of arrange marriage firmly believe that a relationship in general has a 50/50 chance of survival. Regardless of how two individuals meet, it is up to their discretion to address whether they’ will’ make compatible partners in a life long union-- at least that is the intent. The latter thought flirts with the acts of dating if the two people are left to decide whether they are competent enough to entertain a long term relationship; to the contrary society is lead to believe that 99% of couples introduced in an ‘arranged marriage’ setting will blindly fulfill societal expectations, or per se ‘
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