Some in-laws are very welcoming while others can be intrusive enough to make one reconsider why they even got married in the first place. If the woman’s in-laws are already running her husband’s life now, it will only get worse with time. After all the woman may have her own way of creating a home and raising a family; to the contrary the in-laws may think their lifestyle supersedes everyone else thus creating rifts among the couple’s marriage. Not everyone acknowledges boundaries of personal space, privacy and foremost life transitions. Most families have characters that can make one’s mind spin from the crazy uncle to the sibling that makes the news for raising havoc. Marriage is not a haven for perfection yet it can become overwhelming when third parties, especially families—or his family particularly, begin to engage in making conjugal life decisions on behalf of the couple.
His family may not be a problem but his family’s affect on him is a cause of concern.If his family is drama prone, stress will ultimately transfuse into the marriage where the wife is an involuntary bystander trying to alleviate his burden or distance him from his relatives. He cannot use his parents or his father particularly as a reason to defer making life decisions on his own. If anyone is using money or emotional manipulation to control the hubby, hubby is smart enough to know his parents are going to die anyway--fake lingering heart problems or not. Only a weak man uses his father as an excuse to avoid any emotional or social responsibility. The wife is not to blame for his family's behaviors, likewise it is not her job to put out the fires that are caused by other people.
Inquiring minds would like to know, "Is your guy MAN enough to take a stand?".
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Courtesy of J. Whiteway